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Codependency, also known as relationship addiction: Treatment for codependency is available in Center City, Philadelphia. The concept of a relationship addiction has only become popularized in the last ten years. The term was originally coined to describe the partner of a drug or alcohol addict. Codependency is a disease that is thought of as a learned behavior, typically passed down from one generation to the next. People who are codependent typically engage in one-sided, unhealthy and / or abusive relationships. Codependent individuals often have low self esteem, find it hard to be themselves and believe that nothing they do lives up to their expectations and standards. Typical control patterns that a person suffering from codependency might use are: lavishing gifts on those they care about, offering advice without being asked, becoming resentful when others do not let them help, placing value in others.

Below you will find all the articles written on this topic.


Create Emotional Independence by Responding Versus Reacting

Posted by: Tonya McDaniel, ABD, MEd in Human Sexuality, MSW, LSW

How many times have you walked away from an argument feeling worked up, overwhelmed, or defeated? Part of the challenge may be that you are too emotionally fused or codependent…


How to Create Emotional Independence Through Language

Posted by: Tonya McDaniel, ABD, MEd in Human Sexuality, MSW, LSW

If you have ever wondered how you can create emotional independence through language, then you are in the right place.

 

There’s no “I” in “team!” Many of us may be familiar…


Emotional Independence: A Solution to Codependence

Posted by: Tonya McDaniel, ABD, MEd in Human Sexuality, MSW, LSW

Did you know a solution to emotional reactivity, emotional fusion or codependence is emotional independence? But what exactly is emotional independence?

When people struggle with asserting their needs and desires within…


Co-dependent Relationships

Posted by: Angie Dion, MFT, LMFT, Therapist

“You complete me,” Jerry Maguire says desperately to a teary-eyed Dorothy in the movie “Jerry Maguire.” She looks at him longingly as she accepts his apology and his proposal for…


Codepency: Thought Patterns

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Have you ever given your all to a relationship, sacrificing your own beliefs, feelings, and needs to benefit another? You may be struggling with codependency.  Codependency develops from childhood schemas…


Identifying Toxic Thought Patterns

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Identifying Toxic Thought Patterns: There are certain fundamental needs in childhood, such as safety, attention, love, praise, empathy, guidance, and protection. When these needs are unmet, toxic thought patterns, or schemas…


Understanding You and Your Partner’s Attachment

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Have you ever become so frustrated with you partner that you say to yourself, “I just don’t understand him/her”, “What were they thinking”, and “What could possibly be their motivation…


Understanding Past Relationships

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Understanding past relationships: Getting back into dating and relationships can be a fun, but anxiety provoking time. Perhaps your dating experience hasn't been that great. Or your past relationships have been…


An Insecure Partner

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

An Insecure Partner: Ever wonder why your partner has been so insecure lately? Or when the going gets tough, your partner gets going? If this sounds familiar your partner may be…


Cheaters: Who And Why

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Cheaters: Who Are They and Why Do They Do It?

Why do people cheat?  There are many reasons that people cheat.  You may hear people say that we as humans…


What Should Your New Year’s Resolution Be?

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

What Should Your New Year’s Resolution Be?

Before you make your standard New Year’s resolution to go to the gym at least three times a week, think about what you truly…


Attachment

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Have you ever wondered why some people have such a difficult time sustaining close, personal relationships while others seem to do so with relative ease?

How we manage the balance between…


The Importance of Reciprocal Relationships

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

The Importance of Reciprocal Relationships

While most of us would agree on the importance of reciprocal relationships, we don’t consciously think about this idea of reciprocity when it comes to friendships…


Narcissism: The concerns and pitfalls

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Narcissism: The concerns and pitfalls 

We have all been in contact with a narcissist. Whether you’ve been around a person who insists on being the center of the attention, or…


What it means to be your authentic self

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

What it means to be your authentic self 

 

Authentic self means:

Being your true authentic self means what you say in life aligns with what your actions. Your authentic self goes beyond…


Healthy Narcissism

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Healthy Narcissism 

The concept of healthy narcissism isn’t often talked about or even encouraged. When narcissism is discussed, it tends to be painted as something negative. You hear stories of narcissists…


Understanding Sex Addiction

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

What is a sex addiction? Sex addictions are best understood as a form of an intimacy disorder. Addicts typically experience compulsive sexual thoughts and/or actions. For example, sex addicts compulsively…


Perfectionism

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Perfectionism: We all have a need to feel accepted, believe we belong and are valued for who we are.  But oftentimes this universal human need gets distorted, becoming a deep source…


End of Relationship Depression

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

One of the first emotions people think about when a relationship ends is sadness.  A loss has occurred and most people expect to feel sad for a short period of…


The Self Esteem Workout

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Center for Growth / Self Esteem Therapy in Philadelphia: Increasing confidence and self esteem. 

Self esteem is a measure of how favorable you rate your abilities and value as a…


Poor Body Image and Thought Records

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Center for Growth / Body Image Therapy in Philadelphia: Completing a Thought Record to Address Poor Body Image

It is common for individuals living in Philadelphia to struggle with self-confidence about their…


What is Codependency?

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Center for Growth / Codependency Therapy in Philadelphia:  Codependency 

This tip is to provide you with the typical characteristics of people who struggle with codependency, a brief history of the term…


5 Ways to Fix Communication With Your Partner Today

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Center for Growth / Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling in Philadelphia: 5 ways to improve communication with your partner TODAY.

Have you recently felt like you and your partner constantly argue…


Re-framing the Concept of Boundaries

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Boundaries: Re-framing the concept

The term boundaries means the limits you set with others based on what you feel most comfortable with; this can be physically, emotionally,intellectually, sexually, the list goes…


Psychotherapy and Family History

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Psychotherapy and Family History

Many individuals decide to attend psychotherapy for a number of reasons: anxiety, depression, sexual and emotional affairs, divorce, sexual abuse, physical abuse, conflicts in family or at…


Family Roles: In the Addictive System

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Center for Growth / Addiction Therapy in Philadelphia: Family Roles

In an addictive family system, it is common for the disease to become the central focus within the system. Often all of…


The Addictive Family System

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Center for Growth / Addiction Recovery in Philadelphia:  The Addictive Family SystemGrowing up a part of a family, it’s easy to believe that how you are raised and what you…


Letting Go of Expectations

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Opening Yourself Up to More by Letting Go of Expectations

Do you find yourself often disappointed when things don’t go your way? Do you find yourself constantly disappointed by friends…


Examples of Blame-Free Communication

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Center for Growth: Couples Counseling / Marriage Therapy in Philadelphia

Examples of Blame-Free Communication

It is common for individuals in Philadelphia to avoid discussing conflict, especially when it involves expressing emotions…


Assertive, Aggressive, and Non-Assertive Communication Styles

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Do you feel like you‘re too passive with voicing your needs? Do you get frustrated and feel angry when trying to get people to do what you want? Have you…


Blaming and Codependency

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

How to avoid blaming when expressing your emotions or reality to friend/partner/coworker, etc

Do you ever struggle to get your point across? Do you find yourself in conflict with a…


How to Write Your Own Positive Affirmations

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

The use of affirmations can be a powerful tool in generating positive change in your life. The definition of an affirmation is to declare that something is true. Really all…


Having a conversation to assert your boundaries.

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

After identifying that you have a boundary that has been crossed it is essential to express your new needs to others. This tip is designed to help…


Quick Boundary Tips

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Once you have Identified Your Boundaries, you are ready to share them with others and express your feelings about the relationship and your boundaries


Identifying Your Boundaries

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Boundaries are “guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for him- or herself that are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him…


What are Boundaries?

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

One of the most challenging, emotional, and stressful tasks within relationships is setting and maintaining appropriate boundaries.  However, most people don’t realize this until their boundaries have been crossed and…


Evaluating Coping Skills

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

This tip is designed to help you answer a few questions about using coping skills for anxiety and depression. So, in order to begin a discussion about coping skills and…


7 Essential Steps to Making Change Real

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

7 Essential Steps to Making Change Real. The concept of change is an essential aspect of what it means to be human, whether it is our own personal goal for…


Finding Motivation To Change

Posted by: Aimee Wood, LCSW

Therapy in Philadelphia: Finding motivation to change: Do you have a bad habit that you want to change? Do you find that no matter what you try, you keep falling back…


How to care for yourself after a breakup

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

How To Care For Yourself After A Break-Up All relationship break-ups are difficult; whether you are the one who initiated the ending or the one who was left behind. …


What Stage Of The Problem Are You In?

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

What stage of the problem are you in? 

Pre-contemplation (what stage of the problem)

You do not believe that there is an actual problem. Thus, you are not ready to consider…


When You Give Too Much

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

                              Codependency Therapy In Philadelphia

When You Give Too Much - Helping Individuals Regain Equality in Their…


Will This Relationship Last

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Will this relationship last? Relationship and Marital Problems: The answer is simple, it all depends upon how determined each individual is to make the relationship work. If two people want…


Improving Relationships

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Couples Counseling / Marriage Therapy in Philadelphia

Improving Relationships - Requires Taking Action depending on the severity of the imbalance in your relationship, you may want to seek help from a…


Speaking Up

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Speaking Up: men and women have been equal in modern America for several decades. They can work the same jobs, take the same roles in military and politics, and they…


Spiritual Connection

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Spiritual Connection: one of the primary benefits of pursuing a spiritual path is the feeling of ‘connectedness’ that often follows as a result. Human beings are innately social creatures. We…


Spirituality As My Moral Compass

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Spirituality As My Moral Compass: morality is the set of standards by which we deem something, particularly conduct or behavior, good or bad. Morals, our personal principles in regard to…


Ways to Improve Self Esteem

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Self-Esteem Therapy Philadelphia

Ways to improve self esteem: Each day take a few minutes and tell yourself that you are important. Remind yourself that no one is perfect. Everyone is a…


Signs and Symptoms of Giving Too Much

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Signs and Symptoms of Giving Too Much: a power imbalance in a relationship does not mean that your partner is being overly demanding or abusive! When a relationship goes from…


Coping with a passive aggressive partner

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Recognize and Deal with a Passive Aggressive Partner - Learning to Read Between the Lines

How women can recognize and deal with a passive aggressive partner: While not everyone can say exactly…


Is it Low Self Esteem

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Is it low self-esteem? Therapy in Philadelphia: How to recognize and come to terms with low self- esteem when a poor self-concept is the root of your problems.

Everybody has bad…


Letting Go On Your Own Terms

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Grief Therapy in Philadelphia - Personal honor rituals - Letting Go On Your Own Terms: losing someone you love is heartbreaking. Grieving is a challenge, grieving well is even harder…


Positive Thinking

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Positive Thinking to Counteract Low Self Esteem

Looking Up - How to use positive thinking to counteract low self-esteem - Low self-esteem is an emotional epidemic in modern America. Every year…


Positive Thinking Techniques

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Therapy in Philadelphia: Postive Thinking Techniques

* Before you can use positive thinking, you must learn to recognize negative thinking, and that can take a little work. We live in…


Practicing Fair Fighting

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Practicing Fair Fighting Techniques

Step one:

* After listening to your partner’s position, summarize what she said. In your summary, withhold your perspective. To help you do a better summary, start off…


Protecting yourself from your partners anxiety

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Center for Growth - Anxiety Therapy in Philadelphia - Protecting Yourself from Your Partner’s Anxiety - Having a loved one with anxiety is not easy. Living with that loved one can…


Reasons Spouses Cheat

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Reasons Spouses Cheat she cheated and broke your heart. Or maybe you’re the one who cheated and broke hers. WHY do husbands and wives cheat? And why don’t they just…


Image Collage

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

The Image Collage Technique, developed for the self help website Therapy in Philadelphia A common trait of those who suffer with anxiety is low self esteem and a…


Keeping a Spiritual Journal

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Keeping a Spiritual Journal Whether you’re just beginning your spiritual journey or have been on your current path for twenty years or more, keeping a spiritual journal is a wonderful…


Letting Go Of Your Perfectionism

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Work On Letting Go Of Your Perfectionism: working hard on letting go of your perfectionism does not mean letting go of your hard work to accomplish things, rather it means…


How To Speak Up

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

How to Speak Up / How to Regain the Equality in Your Relationship – A Guide for Men Addressing the Problem: All healthy relationships involve sacrifice and give-and-take, but sometimes…


Determining if your Relationship is Worth Saving

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Determining if Your Relationship is Worth Saving?: to determine if your relationship is worth saving ask yourself the following questions:

* Do you like your partner?* Do you like your partner’s…


Fear of Infidelity

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Therapy in Philadelphia / Fear of Infidelity: every couple, at some point, faces the fear of infidelity. No matter how strong the relationship, each of us has grappled with the green-eyed…


Couples and Money

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Therapy in Philadelphia / Couples & Money (for people with shared bank accounts) Now that you are married or in a long-term relationship, your significant other’s style of spending can…


Creating Positive Affirmations

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Therapy in Philadelphia : Creating positive affirmation: negative self-talk is a common underlying theme behind clinical anxiety and its symptoms. Those who suffer from anxiety often circulate destructive, negative thought…


Breaking the Habit of Giving Too Much

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Breaking the habit of giving too much depending on the severity of the imbalance in your relationship, and your partner’s level of willingness to work with you, you may want…


Changing All or Nothing Thinking

Posted by: Center for Growth Therapists

Cognitive Therapy in Philadelphia: Changing All or Nothing Thinking

How do I change ‘all or nothing thinking’? to change all or nothing thinking, start by identifying when you are thinking in all or…


Processing Emotions

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Processing emotions: once you identify what you are feeling, try to find a way to process it. Below is a list of action oriented suggestions for how to do this.

Processing…


When to End a Relationship

Posted by: Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

When to End a Relationship - Is your relationship worth saving? While most people will have an opinion about whether you and your partner should stay together, ultimately, the answer…