Squirting. A wet and wild phenomenon beyond your experience. You learned about it somewhere. Magazines? Online? Or maybe a friend told you about it. What exactly IS squirting though? Squirting is when the vagina releases a gush of prostate fluid during sex, typically during orgasm. A lot of sex experts think that squirting is when a fluid is released from the Skene’s glands, located on the upper wall of the vagina. Think of the Skene’s gland as being the female prostate gland.
Is squirting something you would like to try? Here are some tips that will help you start squirting. Not every person is able to squirt, so keep that in mind if you try these tips but do not squirt. Before you get started, it’s important to learn about the G-spot. The G-spot are the back-end roots of the clitoris. Stimulating the G-spot is the most likely way to produce squirting.
Not everyone squirts and not everyone will be able to squirt even if they practice again and again. The tips in this article will get you on the path to potential squirt-land, but even if you don’t end up squirting, these tips can help intensify your orgasms.
- Find your G-spot.
- Balancing between pressure and letting go.
- To empty your bladder or not to empty your bladder?
- Talk to your partner. This should be your last point…. It’s the touchy feely one
Use firm, deep pressure to stroke yourself about 2 inches inside your vagina. Sex experts suggest that you move your fingers in a circular rhythmic motion or in a “come over here” way. Try doing this when you are already aroused. The blood rushing to your pelvic region causes the G-spot to feel a little rougher than the rest of your vagina. After learning about your G-spot with your fingers, you may want to experiment with sex toys that target the G-spot.
If you are experimenting with your G-spot with a partner, here are two sex positions that would allow your partner easy access to your G-spot via penetration.
- Have your partner penetrate you as you lay on your back with your legs raised. This will tighten your vaginal muscles.
- “Doggie style” (when a partner penetrates you while you’re on all fours) gives great access to the G-spot.
The path to squirting is somewhat paradoxical: you need tight pressure in your pelvin region and deep action from your partner, fingers or sex toys. But you should also be relaxed! Before you start your squirting adventure, have your partner massage your body with lotion or do it yourself. Light some candles. Whip out the aromatherapy oils you’ve been saving for a special occasion. Do whatever it is that will make you feel sensual, relaxed, and open to new sensations. During sex or masturbation, try your best to let your mind savor the sensation of your partner, fingers, or toy, the bedsheet against your body, the hot friction between your legs.
A lot of women want to to go to the bathroom before sex or squirting because they are afraid of urinating during sex or masturbation. But there are benefits to trying to squirt with a full bladder. When your bladder is full, there is more pressure on your pelvic region which can lead to a more intense orgasm or squirting experience. If you’re not that worried about urinating where you masturbate or are prepared with a pee-protectant mattress pad (pee protectant mattress pads make for easy clean up. Afterwards, simply take all your sheets and blankets and throw them into the washing machine. Try the following tips with a full bladder. If you are nervous about urinating and think that your preoccupation would prevent you from having a fun time, by all means, go ahead and empty your bladder before you start! We encourage women to try squirting on a full bladder and then an empty bladder so that you personally can know the difference. Most people have a strong preference for one or the other, which leads us to the belief that there is no one right or wrong way, simply your way.
If your partner knows about your desire to squirt and is just as excited about the possibility as you are, it will be easier for you to squirt. Consider whether you want to learn about squirting via articles like this or videos before educating your partner about it. Maybe learning about squirting WITH your partner would be a fun and arousing experience. Many people have no idea what squirting is and would assume that you just had a urine accident during sex if they have not be educated about what squirting really is before sex. Talking to your partner protects your potential mind-blowing squirting experience from being shadowed by a lousy reaction from your partner. Do you really want to end with the idea that a partner could have a lousy reaction? Now you have me curious about his lousy reaction, and what are the major talking points that I need to say to ensure that my partner is excited.
Experimenting sexually can lead to anxiety and discomfort. But it can also be super fun. You have permission to feel nervous, anxious, scared, or confused. You have permission to try squirting two, five, a hundred times and end up not squirting. While the tips above should help you get closer to squirt-land, the main thing I want you to focus on if having fun and feeling good, whether you squirt or not.
If you would like more help in exploring your sexuality, experiencing more pleasure during sex, or strengthening your relationship with your partner, schedule an appointment with a therapist at The Center for Growth in Philadelphia online or by calling (215) 922-5683x1 .