Positive Thinking

Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW
Individual, Couples & Family Therapy
IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor
Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Posted by: Alex Robboy
CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Positive Thinking to Counteract Low Self Esteem

Looking Up - How to use positive thinking to counteract low self-esteem - Low self-esteem is an emotional epidemic in modern America. Every year, thousands attend counseling for problems related to poor self-image, and for everyone that does seek help there are many others who do not. Some people feel that only poor physical health is cause for concern, not poor emotional health. They feel that low self-esteem is not a real problem, that it is too small to bother with fixing, and they may feel ashamed at making “a big deal” over something they see as relatively unimportant. Others may be uncomfortable discussing their problems; they may feel that they are burdening friends or family if they mention it. Still others may believe that there is no point in mentioning it because they feel there is nothing they can do.

But it’s not true. If you are one of the millions of Americans who suffer from poor self-esteem, there is hope. Not only can low-self esteem be improved, but it can be improved with steps you yourself can take. Whether you have serious problems with self-image and are looking for things you can do on your own to supplement therapy, or you just want to feel a little more confident and comfortable with yourself, there are things you can do any time to develop a higher self-esteem. Using positive thinking techniques in your day-to-day life, you can begin to cultivate a happier outlook and a happier you.

The Self in Self-Esteem: (positive thinking) The most important thing to remember about self-esteem, low or high, is that it is really all about you. Self-esteem is your relationship with yourself – no one really knows what goes on inside you except you, and ultimately only you have the power to change it. It is often tempting to blame others when we feel bad: “I feel worthless because they picked Susan for the promotion instead of me,” or, “I’m really depressed about myself because my wife got a divorce.” And of course these things do effect us, have a tendency to drag us down. The opinions and actions of those around us are always going to get a reaction from us. However, the key to taking control of your self-esteem is taking responsibility, and that means understanding that only you are in charge of you. No matter who you are, there will always be something in your life that isn’t going the way you want, but only you can decide how you will react to it. Remember that you have the power to decide how to deal with negative people and events – don’t let influences on the outside determine how you feel on the inside.

A Day-to-Day Process: (positive thinking) Self-esteem isn’t just sitting there inside you – like any relationship, the relationship with yourself is something that is dynamic and in-progress, something that is shaped by your words, your actions, and your very thoughts. The way you think, even about minor things, has a real effect on the way you feel. People tend to develop patterns to their thoughts as they grow older, specific ways of processing and thinking about the things that happen to them, and for people with low self-esteem these patterns are usually negative. People who tend not to look on the bright side, who are quick to see the worst in everything, often become equally quick to see the worst in themselves. It’s not just that their self-esteem is low; their entire worldview tends to be poor. You can’t just wake up and “fix” low self-esteem because first you have to fix the negative thought patterns that cause it.

The key to this process is positive thinking. Positive thinking is the act of consciously and intentionally replacing negative thought patterns with positive ones. By practicing positive thinking, you actually train your mind to move away from negative thoughts about yourself and react in better way to things that happen to you and around you. If you work daily on these techniques, they become ingrained in how you see yourself and the world. By applying positive thinking to counteract negative impulses, you can begin raising self-esteem. Struggling to apply positive thinking? Try our positive thinking technique, or call a therapist to schedule an appointment at Center for Growth / Therapy in Philadelphia 267 324 9564.