Is It Okay To Masturbate When You Are Pregnant?

Alex Robboy, CAS, MSW, LCSW
Individual, Couples & Family Therapy
IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor
Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.

Posted by: Alex Robboy
CAS, MSW, LCSW Individual, Couples & Family Therapy IMAGO Certified Marriage Counselor AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor Founder & Director of the Center for Growth Inc.
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Is It Okay To Masturbate When You Are Pregnant? Yes!

Self-stimulation for pregnant women can be fun and exciting: As you go through pregnancy, your body undergoes many changes. These changes will affect sex drive, sexual responses and your overall energy. Pregnancy is hard work. The physiological changes that a woman’s body undergoes as she carries a fetus to term are tremendous. Changes include, but are not limited to: weight gain, exhaustion, insomnia, vivid dreams, queasy stomach, food cravings, nose sensitivity, forgetfulness, clumsiness, increased or decreased chronic pain and / illnesses.

One of the best ways to manage your time during pregnancy is to remember this is a phase and to relax into the natural changes. If you are tired, sleep. If you feel hungry eat.  After pregnancy your body will return to normal and you will have gained some new knowledge about how bodies work.  Similarly in the bedroom, during pregnancy listen to your body. There will be times where you do not want to be touched. Your breasts hurt, you are exhausted or feeling sick to your stomach, or maybe you simply feel vaginal dryness no matter what type of sexual stimulation you are experiencing. Other times you might experience cravings for intimacy and / or sexual stimulation. The increased blood flow can cause you to experience genital stimulation, furthermore, your body may be producing increased amounts of vaginal discharge. Your body is powerful, trust it. Throughout pregnancy your body will know exactly what to do, even when you don’t. Your only job is to explore the changes and enjoy the 9 month journey. 

One way to learn more about your sexual changes is through self-stimulation. Self-stimulation puts you in charge.

Self-Stimulation Exercises for Pregnant Women

While looking in the mirror, ask yourself: What images comes to mind? What do you like best about your evolving body? Look at your growing belly. Pay attention to the life-force that you are bringing into this world. What does it feel like? Focus on your nipples, how have they changed? What changes do you notice? Can you imagine their functionality along with their sex appeal? Look at your vagina, what changes do you notice? How does it feel? What types of touch are you longing for?
Take the time and caress your breasts. How do they feel? When you are experiencing growing pains what kind of touch is comforting? Arousing? In what ways do you like to be touched now that they are bigger and getting ready for baby? Try stimulating your nipples. Notice the change in color and size. How has your opinion of your body changed? If you are in a very experimental mood try caressing yourself with a wet washcloth, a warm spoon, or an ice-cube.  Notice how each type of touch affects your mood.
Focus your energy on your vagina. Pay attention to whether or not you are wet or dry. Depending upon where you are at during your pregnancy you may experience unusual wetness or dryness. If you find yourself excessively dry we strongly encourage you to use some oil. This will help create a relaxing / stimulating sensation. Touch your inner and outer lips. Pay special attention to their changing sizes as your entire vagina gets ready for the pending birth of your fetus. Do you prefer soft or hard touches? Use short and long touches, which feels better?

   With your new found knowledge about your body, imagine sharing with your partner all of the different thoughts, feelings and questions that you have had about your body, your sexual images, your sexual fantasies, needs and wants. Imagine inviting your partner into your private world and teach him /her about yourself.

     Remember, there will be times during pregnancy where you will have no desire to be touched. Your moods / sexual desires can change radically within a short period of time. It is your job to take advantage of the fleeting opportunities when you have the chance. This is true for self – stimulation and for sexual intimacy with a lover. No one but you will know when you are in the mood or not. If touch is something that you value, then you may need to take the lead with self and others about when, where and how you desire to be touched.